My manifesting buddy and I have a standing appointment where we get together daily to spend 3 minutes (134 seconds to be exact) creating our next manifestation. In truth, we generally spend the entire hour chatting, sharing tips, tools and tricks and generally uplifting and encouraging each other. Today was exactly this way. Our conversation began with her telling me how she had come to realize a hard, ugly truth about herself. I originally let that part pass but she said it again and the emphasis that she put on ugly urged me to inquire about this truth that she’d encountered about herself. I have to say, I expected something harsher than ‘I’m sometimes judgmental and I only enjoy constructive feedback if it’s what I want to hear.’ I paraphrased, of course.
During the course of our conversation, I realized that what my buddy had done was an act of Radical Self Acceptance. She explained to me how Spirit had revealed these truths to her about herself and how she resisted at first, then accepted the guidance and began making changes in her consciousness as well as in her actions that would support her in changing these undesirable habits. For her, this was a realization that unconditional self love would be beneficial to her at this phase in her journey and you can read all about that at http://www.findinghopewithin.com/.
I believe that with radical self acceptance comes unconditional self love … or maybe it’s the other way around. Either way, these two are a really good team. My experience of radical self acceptance came during a period of depression in my life. I was stressed and overwhelmed in every aspect of my life. My boyfriend at the time was very frustrated with me for not keeping the house neat and tidy. In fact, the house was a hot mess. I worked full time, went to school full time, took care of my mother whenever that was necessary and experienced a good amount of stress in that relationship. Adding housekeeping onto my ‘to do’ list just sounded ludicrous.
Well, he was not happy and in the middle of one particular heated argument, he screamed ‘You’re just lazy!’ My response, which rivaled his in intensity, was ‘You’re right!’ That took all the air out of his sails and he did not know how to respond. It was the most delicious argument I’ve had to date. My point is, when you radically accept yourself, no one else has the power to tear you down.
Remember the end scene in ‘8 Mile’ that won him the talent show? He won because he said everything about himself that the other guy could have thought of to use against him, first. That left the opponent with nothing to say. When you fully and completely accept the least attractive attributes of yourself, you are then free to fully and completely love yourself and not a moment before. So take a deep breath and in your next meditation session, ask your Higher Self to show you the Truth about yourself. Accept that these things are apart of your personality and you can learn to love them as a part of you or you can choose to change them into more positive attributes.
